Back Deleting our fear of being perceived as egocentric
Being a woman, I question whether we truly do appreciate our value. We strive to be our best and yet we find it difficult to take compliments and promote ourselves.
I notice how men have no qualms in self-promotion and yet women shrink and struggle to promote themselves as equals in this space. Many women naturally reject positive feedback and pride related to their direct achievements. Is this a fear of not being good enough or do we put being humble ahead of self-promotion in our values hierarchy?
To be honest, for a long time I too have been doing the same. Until recently when I started to believe in myself more and proudly elevated my accomplishments and successes. I realised that this does not make me vain but instead makes me visible and showcases the best of me amongst the best regardless of gender. I want to be part of a network that promotes this behaviour and encourages women to be proud of their achievements whilst removing the stigma associated with any egocentricity linked to celebration.
Firstly, and importantly I encourage you to be your authentic self. This brings out the best of you. It can be scary to ask questions you think others expect you to know; chances are the room is grateful somebody has asked. Be that “somebody” in keeping with your style. As a Muslim woman from an ethnic background, I am aware that I have not been the conventional fit, however, even though at times it can be daunting, I am proud to be a strong leader with excellent award-winning ideas and have delivered them in my style whilst questioning what I do not understand.
In the words of Marian Wright Edelman, “You cannot be what you cannot see”.
Another tip I recommend is to expand your network. How can others respect your capabilities if they are not aware of them? Through fostering new relationships, I have had my work shared across wider levels of the business which has led to much-deserved recognition.
Recognition and celebration add to future successes. Celebrating achievements motivates us to be better rather than quietly quit. I have seen first-hand the role model I have become for other women. Many now feel comfortable in sharing their capabilities with pride and happiness - especially when talking about their achievements. If more of us women shared our achievements, regardless of how big or small, in a positive light together, we can infectiously inspire others to be the same.
So, to conclude, reducing the stigma linked to self-promotion is a step forward as this is not egocentric but well-deserved praise. Let’s work together to elevate all women and support self-promotion!